Blending two families together after death or divorce is a challenging and beautiful journey.
Honoring each other’s needs, respect for each diversity, acknowledging everyone involved, that is a path of growth towards harmony. The opportunity for new love and more love can become a gift!
However, the biological parents are THE parents. Most often the “step” parent oversteps boundaries to his/her “new child/ren” in taking a role that is not honoring the original place of the biological-missing- parent. Conflicts are the result and a lot of damage is done. If there’s a sense of competition by the new step-parent with the biological-missing- parent , or some disrespect towards him/her prevails, the unseen loyalty between biological parent and child will be surfacing.
It is a pity that many beautiful opportunities failed. Some support and helpful tools can turn a complicated situation into a harmonious family.
If you are part of a blended family, and face issues, do not give up hope! Although you might have heard about failures, you can choose to be the successful happy blended family!
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Regulate your expectations!
Here are 3 tips:
- Respect and honor each others’ boundaries
- Speak respectful about the “other” parent
- Don’t force step-parent roles. Children have the deepest loyalty to their biological parents.